Although many of us are considered to be bubbly and upbeat business professionals, the stressors and uncertainties from the pandemic can knock down even the most positive of individuals. It can also be further argued that those who possess stronger empathetic tendencies have sunk to all-time lows due to the insurmountable concerns to do with the suffering and safety of so many. Top that off with our ever-diminishing social circles and taking the “human” interaction out of our human resources, it’s not surprising that most of us are not at our best right now!
So what do we do? Let’s break this down and review some survival-mode tactics and try to remember our “cup half full” frame of mind:
Vacation – We may not be able to safely travel, but we still need a break. Many are referring to their vacation right now as ‘mental health days.’ Take this time to rejuvenate and do things that make you happy and lift your spirits. This means different things for different people but it’s critical for everyone to take some time off for themselves and de-stress.
Short Fuses – It seems that even the most tolerable of people can have short fuses right now. It doesn’t take much either since most of us are at the peak of our stress limits already. If emotions are running high, remember to defuse first by walking away to calm yourself or hold off on immediately responding (emotionally) to an email. Take that necessary time to calm down to avoid an explosive response. Remind yourself “Is this value-added by doing ‘X’?” and “Will I achieve the results I want to by doing ‘X?’
Kill it with Kindness – I’m not referring to when one deliberately treats someone extremely kind in response to an insult with the intention of making them angry (or angrier). Moreover, it takes a lot of willpower to turn something negative into a positive when emotions are running high. Instead of having defensive reactions to someone’s criticisms or negative comments, refuse to argue. Alternatively, point out specific positives you see and refuse to be drawn into any negativity about you or others. Stay true to your good nature- your health and well-being will thank-you for it.
One day at a time – Survival mode sometimes involves breaking things down into smaller (more easy-to-handle) chunks. An example of this is taking it just “One day at a time.” This tactic can be instantly calming when we just have to focus on getting through a much shorter period of time. Not getting too far ahead of ourselves allows us to focus on the present time only and less on the uncertainties and worries of what the future holds.
Time to Forgive – The holidays can be a stressful time for many of us- regardless of a global pandemic. Many of us experience a lot of anxiety this time of year, and not all family members get along. Holding onto resentment and anger can manifest into physical symptoms and emotional distress. Choose the ‘high road’ and forgive for the sake of your own health. This tactic is just as much a benefit for you as it may be for the other person and can provide some inner peace. However, proceed with caution if you choose to connect with the person(s): Don’t do it for the purpose of receiving a similar sentiment in return. The response (or lack thereof) can cause further resentment and bring you right back to where you started. Relying on others for your happiness can let you down. Do it to make yourself feel good and leave it at that. Read “Kill it with Kindness” again if need be!
Be honest with Yourself – I’ll make this one short and sweet: It’s okay to say you’re not ok. If you haven’t already done so, appoint someone in your life as your support person. This is someone whom you can trust and count on to be there for you to talk about anything with. Telling others that you’re okay when you’re not is alright in small talk as long as you are being honest with yourself and your go-to person (and your healthcare professionals) about how you’re really feeling in order to cope and address any concerns. See “Not Just Another Mental Health Article” for more on this.
Good Deeds & The Little Things – Many of our plans for 2020 were taken from us. The lack of social celebrations, embraces and travel plans were among the top disappointments. Do things for yourself and others that are on a smaller scale that bring you some joy. Leave little gifts on your family and/or friend’s porch for them to find. Splurge on that $5 latte for you when you need an extra pick-me-up. We still have some control over what we choose to do with this time. Think of Ebenezer Scrooge at the end of a Christmas Carol – He was so happy just to be alive and he did more good deeds in one day than he had ever done in his entire life!
Wishing you all the very best in health and happiness this holiday and always!
